I’ve now reached the halfway mark in pregnancy. I’m not a fan of the term “due date” and if asked I reply with “mid May.” When asked what specific date, I tell them I’m not sure! Baby will come when it comes and a specific expected due day feels like such a silly idea to me. But I’m roughly halfway now, which has had me thinking about caring for 2 children a lot more lately.
I won’t lie – it’s daunting. I’m sure most mothers feel this way when transitioning to two (or three, or four?) children. I didn’t feel this nervous before Olivia but I was probably a lot more naive. On one hand I feel comforted knowing what to expect this time, but the first 10 months of Olivia’s life were really difficult for us so it’s not all that comforting! I worry about everything from my sanity, my marriage, my relationship with Olivia and even my businesses.
I run two businesses – one being Hippie Mumma (this blog and the card readings) and the other The Crystal Collective. Both are passions of mine and run through my heart and soul. Both bring in some extra spending money, but more importantly they both have helped me feel like someone other than “Mummy”. I know I’ll probably have to scale back on one or both businesses once baby #2 is here, at least for the first 2 months.
And everyone has told me how much Olivia will change once the baby arrives. No one has anything nice to say – it’s all negative and worrying stuff. But we refuse to believe this! We parent a little different to most people I know and the fact that Olivia has and will be a major part of her brother or sister’s birth will hopefully make a difference. It’s as much a major part of her life as it is ours and it’s as much her baby as it is ours. We are family. Having a home birth means we are lucky enough to have Olivia as involved as we want her to be. She will likely be there for the entire birth, obviously depending on time of day and if things get too much for her once I transition.
It’s nerve wracking yet exciting, growing to a family of 4. I find myself wondering can I have enough time, love or patience for TWO children? I know I can of course, but I also know I’m probably in for a heck of a ride.
So, if you have more than one child, do you have any advice?